The title ain’t click-bait, I don’t think you should workout!
I don’t think anyone “should” work out.
As long as you feel like you ‘should’ workout, I don’t want you to work out. I want you to wait, wait for as long as you feel that you should work out.
Then one fine day, when you feel like you had it enough and ‘want to’ work out, you have my permission to start.
Ask any expert health coach or any person in general and they’ll tell you that you ‘should’ in fact, work out. Everyone should. It could be considered common sense, cuz we weren’t designed to sit idly and wait for our demise.
But I’d still go with the unpopular opinion and say that you ‘should’nt workout.
The word ‘Should’ implies our cultures and societies expectations of us and how we should be and what we should be doing.
The word Should is often used when one person (who feels morally superior) tells the other person to do something, that he feels is the right thing for him.
I can’t help but feel that the pressure the word ‘should’ puts on somebody takes them farther away from the intended direction. I admit, I maybe wrong, but I believe this conversation has to be had.
Ask yourself, how many times have you been told that you need to look a certain way and do a certain thing?
Prochaska in his Transtheoretical model of change, conceptualized the five stages of intentional behavior change and it explains how one’s behavior changes over a wide spectrum of behaviors.
For fitness, It progresses from the I don’t give a fuck (precontemplation) stage to Yea, I think I have to do something about it (contemplation) stage and eventually leads you to the maintenance stage.
The problem is, the ‘you should work out’ message is thrown at people who are in the precontemplation and contemplation stages and people in the precontemplation stage, don’t give a two shit flying fuck about working out and those that are in the contemplation stage are still thinking about it.
When some gooroo tells a person in these stages that they should work out, they not only make them defensive, but also makes them feel guilty.
I hope you have enough experience to realize how guilt tripping someone into complying plays out in the long run.
Here’s a short quote from MI to refresh your memory:
“Gill Woodall and colleagues became interested in the effect of the Mothers Against Drunk Driving Victim Impact Panel (VIP), in which DWI offenders are required to attend a public presentation by people whose lives have been devastated by drunk drivers. Judges agreed to assign offenders randomly to attend or not attend the VIP in addition to the usual sanctions (Woodall, Delaney, Rogers, & Wheeler, 2000). Interviewed as they were leaving the VIP, the offenders felt terrible about themselves—they felt embarrassed, ashamed of what they had done, humiliated, and guilty. When recidivism rates were examined, first offenders who attended the VIP were just as likely to be arrested again as those who did not. For people with one or more prior offenses, however, those who attended the VIP were actually more likely to repeat the offense! Lesson: Making people feel terrible doesn’t help them to change.” – Dr. William Miller, Motivational Interviewing.
In my personal life, I’m at the intersection of the first two stages and if someone tells me that I should workout, I respectfully tell them to Go fuck themselves. With all due respect of course.
Yea, anyone can relapse back into any previous stage.
And I’m betting my money on most normal people feeling the same way too.
I rest my case.
Share your thoughts if you feel otherwise, share this with your friends if you’re worried they keep hearing the “You should workout” advice.
If you do decide to start working out, we are here to welcome you into Beeryani Fitness with our arms wide open. Hi-5’s and Hugs are the norm at the gym! 🙂